Tantra, a Sanskrit word means to weave, expand,
spread or connect. In gay tantra the couple aims
to use their opposing flows of energy to reach a
deeper connection and level of spirituality.
Although many people believe the process is not
possible for same sex couples, the increasing
numbers of people getting involved shows
otherwise. The appeal for many couples is the
opportunity provided to become closer and obtain a
more complete understanding of their
Tantra is a system of personal and spiritual
development. It is not just about prolonging
orgasms or becoming more intimate with your
partner although these are common benefits.
Contrary to most spiritual traditions Tantra views
sexual energy and lust as an integral part of
human spirituality and a path to enlightenment. It
also involves recognizing darker parts of the
personality and integrating those and full sexual
potential into the being. The aim of Tantra is to
expand boundaries, accept ourselves and dispel
guilt or fear and learn about our mystical selves.
Tantra refers to a body of theories which have
been developed from original ideas from Buddhist
and Hindu traditions. Many methods are included in
the discipline. This means that tantric practice
can be very different with different teachers.
Some traditions of tantra assert that the practice
is not possible for same sex couples because the
opposing male and female energies are needed.
However there are several schools which include
gay tantra. Techniques which use the theories of
Kundalini energy flows are possible for same sex
couples. This is because in Kundalini the rising
energy flows are the same in all people regardless
of sexual preference or gender. Some traditions
use a lot of visualization in their processes. In
these cases partners can imagine themselves as
being of different sexes when guiding the flows of
energy. Sexual preference is viewed as a
personality trait in Buddhism and is therefore
unimportant in the context of tantra.
Tantric Buddhism was created by a Buddha and his
companion Big SkyDancer. The followers of this
school of tantra were known for being particularly
passionate and devoted to the spiritual path. It
was developed by a Frenchwoman called Margot Anand
Naslednikoy in the eighties. Her system, called
Sky Dancer Tantra is now the most widespread type
of gay tantra. It is based on
the concept of love as a dance in the sky.
Tantra includes a number of techniques. Yoga is
included for the focus on body position and
breathing. The visualization of magical powers and
Gods is popular. Also visualization is used to
strengthen the connection between the couple. For
example they can imagine that they visualize the
energy transferring from one to the other.
Meditation is used in most tantra as the breathing
patterns aid other techniques such as
visualization. A common method is to have the
couple take alternate breaths.
Tantric massage is another prevalent way to apply
tantra. It is not intended to bring about climax
but to release blockages of energy in the body.
The masseuse builds up sexual energy in the body
and then uses that to unblock the necessary areas.
Gay tantra is a growing practice among same sex
couples and gay singles. It can encompass a range
of techniques, practices and beliefs but the
overall aim is spiritual development. There are
many gurus and teachers throughout the world who
run workshops and retreats and they are easily